Cause of Death: Unknown

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So – in the past couple of months, a kid I went to high school with passed away. Now, I’m warning you, this post might come across as offensive, and insensitive – so if you can’t handle the subject of suicide – I suggest you stop reading….

Still with me? Good. Ok, so kid commits suicide; or so it’s presumed. All that is known is that he was found in his bath tub, dead. When word started to spread, it was unknown if this was suicide, or accident, or some freakish medical condition. It was posted all over facebook that he had passed away. With over 30 comments of people asking what happened, the family said there was an autopsy scheduled, so hopefully answers would emerge. The family then said, “Let’s not focus on the why, and just remember the great person that he was”.

Ok, I agree. I’m on board with that. A week or so passes and nothing further is said about the passing of this kid. This is where I think the family is at fault. It really pisses me off that the family decided not to let people know the truth. From what I’ve heard…this kid had a pain-pill addiction. He had recently lost his job. It’s assumed that he was down and out, took too many pills, and died. Now, I knew this kid to some degree. He was a great kid. I find it hard to believe he’d purposely commit suicide. My personal feeling is that it was an accidental overdose. I think most people will agree with me on that. He was such a vibrant kid, and I just don’t see suicide as being his answer to his problems. From the kid I know, he wouldn’t go out like that. This is my opinion.

So, as the family stays silent, rumors and accusations start to spread like wild fire. Rumors like: He was working at a “behavior recovery center” and he was stealing pain-pills from his clients: His girlfriend dumped him, and that was reason enough: He was let go from his job because of his addiction: He was gay and couldn’t handle the secret anymore: The family lied about where he was found. He wasn’t in his apartment, he was at a friend’s home…..

I don’t know if any of these are true. But I personally feel its wrong for the family to stay silent and let this boy’s legacy be this kind of crap. We all have our demons, and it’s unfair for this kid’s demons to be exposed to everyone without anyone (without himself) to stand up for him and defend his honor. Even if the truth was that he was gay with a pain-pill addition that just lost his job because of theft AND his girlfriend dumped him….I still think it would be best for the family to stand up and TELL THE TRUTH, defend their son/sibling, and put this all to bed. No matter how bad or painful the truth is, it’s still better than letting people’s imaginations do the talking on this one.

The family could have taken this kid’s story and turned it into a success story. “Yes, he had a pill addiction, and it sucks we weren’t aware, but hopefully by bringing this forth, and bringing light to the subject, we can save someone else in our lives that suffers. We can’t bring him back, but we can save someone else.” Is that so hard?

Not only could the family shed light on a serious issue, but they could also bring closure to those who were close to this kid. We all know that sometimes friends are closer to someone than their family. I feel that just because they are family doesn’t mean they should be the only ones privileged to know what happened to someone that was cared for, and loved by so many people.

By hiding the truth, they bring shame to their son/sibling. They are saying that whatever happened, it’s too shameful to let others know. I bet that’s how this person felt anyway. He was probably already ashamed that he had an addiction…and his family just validated that he SHOULD have been ashamed. They won’t even let it be known that they love and support him regardless of his worldly struggles. Again, just my opinion!

Months have passed, and people are still wondering, and asking questions about what happened. The family should be embarrassed they’ve let their son/sibling go out like a light, with rumors running the show. They should be ashamed that so many people are searching for closure, wishing they knew the truth, so they could process that information, and move on.

I’m sorry for their loss. It must be so difficult to deal with his demons, knowing that they can’t even talk to him, or comfort him, or help him move passed it. I’m sure for them it has been information overload. I hope that you, my reader, will see that I have so much compassion for this family, and for their loss. I just have the same compassion for the person we lost…and I feel he should be vindicated, and set free from rumors, and hurtful lies.

Ta ta for now,
Xoxo

GRG